The research about how to build emotional resilience in children is very clear. In order to give children the best chance at being able to manage their emotions when life throws them challenges, we must support them with their emotions when they are little. And the context in which children learn to manage themselves is the relationship they have with key adults in their lives. In this way we teach them to develop healthy internal resources and positive relationships, rather than rely on external resources, such as drugs, alcohol, self harm, or fall into depression or anxiety.